6 Steps to Ending a Toxic Friendship
6 Steps to Ending a Toxic Friendship
A toxic friendship is that type of friendship that is imbalanced and void of respect and understanding. Friendships provide support emotionally and psychologically but it becomes a major detriment when this friendship turns toxic. This post contains the necessary steps to ending a toxic friendship.
Ending a toxic friendship is a challenging and beneficial step. Friendship is a lifelong commitment that provides a lot of emotional and psychological support. Toxic friends are friends that are always seeking attention, always at the receiving end and are highly dominative. You can check out the signs of a toxic friend in one of my previous posts here. Here are 6 crucial steps to ending a toxic relationship and building a healthy and positive life:
Identify and acknowledge the toxicity
The first step to ending a toxic friendship is by identifying and acknowledging the toxicity and by stopping undue justification of your friend’s behaviors. You have to acknowledge the fact that your friendship is not what you perceived it to be in order to maintain your mental and emotional wellbeing.
After identifying the toxicity in your friendship, it is important to acknowledge it and desist from making up excuses for your friend’s behaviors. Know that friendship is a choice and not a must and you need to also realize that the only thing you can truly have the ability to change or improve is yourself. Identifying and acknowledging the toxicity will give you the right courage and commitment or dedication to let go and further into better friendship opportunities that are fit for your mental and emotional wellbeing.
Boundaries are a very important factor when it comes to a toxic friendship. It allows you to discover and implement certain behaviors that you’re okay with and the ones you are not okay with. Boundaries are set limits that determine how we wish to be treated and it gives one the medium and opportunity to communicate and convey your feelings to the people around you. In order to effectively put an end to a toxic friendship, it is necessary to set firm boundaries and ensure to always stick to them.
Learn to stand up and stick to yourself as well as your principles and values. Tell your friend what you like and what you don’t like. Let them know that you also deserve respect, equality and privacy at all times.
It is not easy to end a friendship especially the ones of many years but no matter how hard or difficult you find it, it is important for you to be honest and straightforward when it comes to ending a toxic friendship. You need to be honest when telling your friend that you no longer want to hang out with him/her.
Even if you feel angry or unhappy with your friend’s behaviors, it is still important for you to be as honest and respectful as possible when you want to end the friendship. Express your emotions and feelings as respectful as possible and avoid blaming either you or your friend to avoid further conflicts.
When you communicate your desires and emotions properly and respectfully, it will allow the friendship to end in a pleasant and respectable manner, avoid conflicts and blame struggles and allow your friend to know your agenda and emotions so that they are able to either correct and mend their ways for the friendship to work out or walk away forever.
Be assertive and let go
Toxic friends are very dramatic and they tend to always want to draw attention everywhere and anywhere they go. They possess this attitude of trying to manipulate one and people into believing and accepting what they say.
When it comes to ending a toxic friendship, it is important for you to walk away firmly and totally to avoid any form of drama or conflict. Toxic friends always tend to pull the victim card every time their ego is crushed and they consider the act of you breaking off a friendship with them a hit on their ego and pride so it is advisable to be assertive and firm when ending a toxic friendship to avoid being tricked or manipulated back into the friendship.
Toxic friends are great receivers which allows a high chance of putting your friend’s feelings first before yours and thus sacrificing your happiness and needs. Ending a toxic friendship requires you to put your happiness and needs first before others. Think about what you want and need and do whatever makes you happy, relieved and safe. Do those things that give you happiness without any guilt or resistance.
Ending a toxic friendship is not easy but it is equally beneficial and important to focus and give time to yourself and needs since it is a matter of your mental and emotional wellbeing. You can practice self-care by spending time with your loved ones, reading a book, meditating, making time for quality sleep, and doing something that you love or by spending time in nature.
Surround yourself with positive people.
A toxic friendship can leave one confused and distrustful in others. The best thing to pick up is to reconnect and surround yourself with people that emit positivity. Even if your previous friendships didn’t work out, there are still people around you that care and hold you dear.
Surround yourself with those kinds of people and allow yourself to heal and experience happiness. Find new friends and invest your time into more healthy and positive relationships. Surround yourself with as much love and happiness as you want to heal positively.
To lead a healthy and positive life, it is necessary to rid yourself of toxic people and friends. No matter how important your friendship or relationship is, it can be a major detriment when it turns toxic. Friendships are meant to provide emotional support and confidence but toxic friendships only bring fear, anxiety and stress.
True friendships are built on mutual honesty, respect and understanding and your friend not giving you the required respect and understanding that you deserve continuously automatically makes that kind of friendship toxic. Reshape and reconstruct your life by putting an end to all kinds of toxic friendships and connect with your loved ones. Be honest in your friendship and try as much as possible to always express how you feel and what you want. Protect your mental and emotional wellbeing by building a healthy friendship for yourself.
Ending a toxic friendship is not easy and it’s pretty much normal to feel uptight, confused or depressed during this process. A professional therapist or counsellor can help you to get through this phase of your life effectively without issues. You can use the online therapy directory to get across to the nearest therapist in your area.
I hope these steps listed above help you to effectively rid yourself of all kinds of toxic friendships and relationships. Don’t hesitate to pin/tweet this post for later, share to your contacts or leave a comment below. Thanks for stopping by.