5 Steps to Overcoming Fear of Change
5 Steps to Overcoming Fear of Change
Do you know why there is something called a comfort zone? Do you know why people feel comfortable and safe in their comfort zone? Everyone dreads the feeling of change in their lives which is why comfort zone exists in the first place. Most people fear change because of the awkward and uncomfortable feeling that is associated with it. We’ll look at the various steps to overcoming fear of change in this article.
Change naturally brings about fear which might cause you to put an end to that fear by staying where you are. Staying where you are is a decision that will only provide temporary relief. It will stop you from discovering and working on your potential as you will never know what you can do and what you might have been and it will never give you the chance to explore and soar. These 5 steps below will help in overcoming your fear of change and help to transform your life for the better:
Know what you want
Change happens for a reason and that reason is something that can effectively help you in overcoming your fear of change. By defining your purpose and knowing what you want, you can conquer your fear of change.
Knowing what you want will not only drive you towards the change but also eliminate any form of doubt that might stop you from achieving your goals. When you decide to change, you need to first understand why you want the change and what you want to get from this change. It is only when you realize this will you be able to eliminate your fear of change.
“The first secret of getting what you want is knowing what you want” – Arthur D. Hlavaty
Identify and know your fears
The fear of change comes from the notion of “what ifs”. It is an uncertain feeling that one gets before the change. This feeling triggers fear and make you believe and comfortable in your comfort zone. Think about it, what exactly are you afraid of? Who are you running away from? For you to effectively overcome your fear of change, you need to discover and know your fears. Identify what exactly is making you afraid to take a step. Know what is keeping you stuck and caged.
Knowing your fears will only make them irrelevant and easy to solve. It will enlighten you on what to do to get past them. By the time you identify your concerns and fears of change, you will be provided with the right opportunity and confidence to overcome them.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy” – Dale Carnegie.
Always stay in the present
The first action taken during change is not always friendly, It is always awkward and uncomfortable. I remember the day I tried to walk in the middle of my high school then without my glasses, I felt horrible and uncomfortable because I’ve never taken off my glasses in public before so I vowed never to take it off again due to the feeling I got when I took it off. But when my glasses broke, I was forced to walk around and even read without my glasses and after some time, I got used to the feeling of not wearing glasses.
So what I’m trying to say is that what you encountered when you tried to change might trigger the fear of change but you need to allow yourself to focus on the present only. When you think about the happenings of the past, you will continue to be reminded of the awkward and uncomfortable feeling you got when you tried to change. When you don’t stay in the present, you’ll only continue to stress and brood over the past or future which is only a perceived “inevitable” outcome and it will not allow you to make any right decision.
“Don’t dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment” – Buddha.
Take the big risk
Being confined in your comfort zone gives you the idea of playing it safe. Most people fear change because the outcome is always unknown and thus take change as a big risk while feeling comfortable and safe with the known. Life itself is a risky game that we play every day. Most of the events of life require getting out of a comfort zone.
Fear is only natural when taking a risk and it is a life-changing situation. It requires feelings of doubt and uncertainty. Truly, not all risks are favorable but failure is also a medium for you to grow and become a better person. When you doubt yourself, keep it at the back of your mind that the more risk you take, the more you grow and the bigger your success. You need to take big risks to succeed and that change is your success.
“If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary” – Jim Rohn.
Create a plan
A plan is a well thought and prepared set of actions that one thinks of as a way to achieve or acquire something. Having a plan or strategy in place will give you an insight into how you want the change to happen which will, in turn, make you feel comfortable and safe with the change you’re making.
While planning cannot control the outcomes, it can help you to know what you will do if something fails so that you can at least reduce its consequences as much as possible. The plan provides an imaginary vision of what you want, how you want it, and what you wish to get from it. Planning helps you to survive through the change and overcome your fears one after the other.
“A man who does not plan long ahead will find trouble at his door” – Confucius.
It is only natural to fear change because our body and mind only feel comfortable with the known and are not at all comfortable with the unknown. To most people, change is a dreadful feeling that they try so hard to avoid due to the awkward and uncomfortable feeling that it is associated with and how comfortable they feel in their comfort zone.
It is important to not let that fear hold you back and make the change that you need in your life. Life is a place filled with both roses and thorns so you shouldn’t always expect things to go or happen the way you want. I hope the above-listed steps can help you to successfully overcome your fear of change.
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